“Give me your tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, The wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed, to me: I lift my lamp beside the golden door.”
In fact, he lost partially because of his efforts in behalf the nation. However, it hasn’t been widely recognized that the most impactful, beneficial, and long lasting effect of his decision, wasn’t the decision that he is known for, reviled for, and awarded for.
Robert Crawley is the 7th Earl of Grantham and the Viscount Downton; simply addressed as Lord Grantham.
He and his wife Cora have birthed three daughters: Mary, Edith and Sybil.
The sinking of the RMS Titanic tragically decease two of Robert’s heirs, and the inheritors of his title and estate. Robert’s father drafted his will according to the laws of primogeniture, so all three of Robert’s daughters will have no claim to his wealth.
The new heir is Robert’s third cousin once removed, a lawyer living in Manchester named Matthew Crawley.
This discrepancy in nobility and class causes dissension among the family.
In the meantime, Robert and his dear wife Cora re-purpose Downton into a convalescent hospital for soldiers recovering from the brutal trench warfare of WWI.
The heir, Captain Crawley, is wounded in battle and temporary loses the use of his legs.
Robert’s youngest daughter Sybil falls for the family chauffeur Irish national Tom Branson. They elope to Ireland.
Matthew recovers from his battle wounds and coincidentally marries and impregnates Robert’s eldest daughter Mary.
Robert makes a bad investment in the Canadian Grand Trunk line railway company, which goes belly-up, and squanders the lion’s share of the families remaining fortune along with it.
Matthew is able to refinance the estate due to another inheritance he receives from his deceased lover’s father one Reggie Swire.
They become co-owners of the house and estate. After popping the hood, Matthew feels that Downton is being mismanaged, and is hemorrhaging capital.
Robert conforms his traditionalist views and implements several logistical reforms in the running of Downton.
Tragically soon after birthing his son George, Matthew dies in a car crash. He leaves his stake in Downton to his dear wife, Mary.
Robert’s youngest daughter Sybil dies of eclampsia after giving birth to a baby daughter.
Branson succeeds Jarvis as manager of the estate.
Robert takes ill and vomits a stomach full of blood onto the table during dinner. He receives a gastrectomy, recovers, and makes a commitment to take better care of his health.
There is no such thing as a marriage between two intelligent people that does not sometimes have to negotiate thin ice. I know. —Robert Crawley
Some people are unforgiving. Others are insensitive.—Robert Crawley
Sometimes I feel like a creature in the wild whose natural habitat is gradually being destroyed.—Robert Crawley
We’ve dreamed a dream, my dear, but now it is over.—Robert Crawley
If I were to tell you she’d made me very happy, would that stretch belief?—Robert Crawley
If you must know, when I think of my motives for pursuing Cora, I am ashamed. There is no need to remind me of them.—Robert Crawley
What do you think? I’ve given my life to Downton. I was born here and I hope to die here. I claim no career beyond the nurture of this house and the estate. It is my third parent and my fourth child. Do I care about it? Yes, I do care!—Robert Crawley
Your grandmother merely wishes to do the right thing. And so do I.—Robert Crawley
All our loves are lived around our children.—Robert Crawley
Certainly I did. To welcome you into this house as my son. I can’t tell you how glad it makes me.—Robert Crawley
“The world was in a dream before the war, but now it’s woken up and said goodbye to it. And so must we.”—Robert Crawley
I don’t suppose your ancient father’s opinion on these matters carries much weight?—Robert Crawley
“This is Carson, we’d all be lost without him.”—Robert Crawley
Why should you? Downton is in my blood and in my bones. It’s not in yours. And I can no more be the cause of its destruction than I could betray my country.—Robert Crawley
“My goodness that was strong talk for an Englishman.”—Robert Crawley
“And the price of great love is great misery when one of you dies.”—Robert Crawley
“I won’t give in, Murray. I’ve sacrificed too much to Downton to give in now. I refuse to be the failure, the earl who dropped the torch and let the flame go out.”—Robert Crawley
I apologize if my bad manners have brought this on.—Robert Crawley
Let’s give it a go and see what the future brings.—Robert Crawley
“I couldn’t do that. I have a duty beyond saving my own skin. The estate must be a major employer, and support the house or there’s not point to it. To any of it.”—Robert Crawley
No man is an island, Carson. Not even Thomas Barrow.—Robert Crawley
“Sometimes, Cora, you can be curiously unfeeling.”—Robert Crawley
Have you been happy? Really, have I made you happy?—Robert Crawley
I must do what my conscience tells me.—Robert Crawley
The damage cannot be irreparable when a man and a woman love each other as much as you do.—Robert Crawley
“This is a folly. A ridiculous, juvenile madness.”—Robert Crawley
I suppose so. We’re going to need all the solidarity we can muster.—Robert Crawley
“I confess I was amused at the idea of an Irish radical for a chauffeur, but I see now I have been naive.”—Robert Crawley
“No one’s sensible at her age. Nor should they be. That’s our role.”—Robert Crawley
“Well, that’s all right. They don’t have much fun. You should join them.”—Robert Crawley
“I just worry about you. I’m your father. It’s allowed.”—Robert Crawley
“I won’t allow it. I won’t allow my daughter to throw away her life.”—Robert Crawley
“There hasn’t been a Catholic Crawley since the reformation.”—Robert Crawley
“You’ll have a months wages too, that I insist on.”—Robert Crawley
“It’s a bloody business Bates, but I can’t see any way around it.”—Robert Crawley
“I mean to help until you find something.”—Robert Crawley
“Cora, don’t let Mary make a fool of herself.”—Robert Crawley
“I don’t care what Carson thinks.”—Robert Crawley
“Oh, Carson, I hope you weren’t embarrassed this afternoon. I can assure you the Duke very much appreciated his welcome.”—Robert Crawley
“God help the poor devils below decks. On their way to a better life. What a tragedy.”—Robert Crawley
“All the people want is a happy marriage at the palace is it so much to ask?”—Robert Crawley
“Why are all your causes so steeped in gloom?”—Robert Crawley
Welcome to Downton.—Robert Crawley
You are my darling daughter and I love you, hard as it is for an Englishman to say the words.—Robert Crawley
“If I had made my own fortune and bought Downton for myself, it should be yours without question, but I did not. My fortune is the work of others who labored to build a great dynasty. Do I have the right to destroy their work? Or impoverish that dynasty? I am a custodian my dear, not an owner. I must strive to be worthy of the task I have been set.”—Robert Crawley
“Whatever she says, my mother is as strong as an ox and it’s high time she let go of her scheme for upsetting everyone. Time we all did.”—Robert Crawley
“Get back inside, and we’ll say no more about it.”—Robert Crawley
“Don’t let the footmen be too coarse in front of them. Thomas likes to show off, but we must have a care for feminine sensibilities. They are finer and more fragile than our own.”—Robert Crawley
It wasn’t right, Carson. I just didn’t think it was right.—Robert Crawley
“Don’t worry Carson, I know all about hard decisions when it comes to the honor of Downton.”—Robert Crawley
“So now we must do our best for his child, for his sake as well as yours.”—Robert Crawley
Every mountain is unclimbable until someone climbs it. So every ship is unsinkable until it sinks.—Robert Crawley
If we don’t respect the past, we’ll find it harder to build a future.—Robert Crawley
“Bates! My dear fellow! I do apologize. I should have realized you’d all be at luncheon.”—Robert Crawley
“Please sit, sit everyone. I just want to say a quick hello to my old comrade-in-arms.”—Robert Crawley
“Bates, my dear man. Welcome to Downton.”—Robert Crawley
“I’m so sorry to have disturbed you all. Please forgive me.”—Robert Crawley
“Is that quite fair? To deprive a man of his livelihood when he’s done nothing wrong?”—Robert Crawley
“A strange business, Carson.”—Robert Crawley
“We all have different parts to play, Matthew. And we must all be allowed to play them.”—Robert Crawley
“My dear fellow I brought you here to interfere. In fact, why don’t you stay for dinner and we’ll talk about it?”—Robert Crawley
“It is settled, my dearest one, whether you like it or not.”—Robert Crawley
“You do know I should be very proud to have you as my son-in-law, whatever your prospects.”—Robert Crawley
“We’d be delighted.”—Robert Crawley
“I see my life’s work.”—Robert Crawley
“My dear fellow, we all have chapters we would rather keep unpublished.”—Robert Crawley
“Cheer up, Carson. There are worse things happening in the world.”—Robert Crawley
I’m not asking you to abandon your beliefs, Alfred. Just introduce a little kindness into the equation.—Robert Crawley
“She’s always making trouble.”—Robert Crawley
I’m glad I was jealous of Shrimpie. It’s made me realize what a fool I’ve been. Downton will survive because of Matthew’s vision. You always knew how lucky we are in Matthew, and now I give thanks for him. As I give thanks for my home and my family. And most of all, I give thanks for my wife.—Robert Crawley
I just want to give him a chance.—Robert Crawley
Extremely hospitable, genuinely kindhearted, stubbornly traditional, but above all a compassionate human being Robert Crawley is an Idealist.
Mary loses her virginity to a Turkish diplomat visiting Downton one Kemal Pamuk. Pamuk tragically passes during the sexual encounter and Mary is left with a corpse in her bedroom.
Mary engages with her sister Edith in several malicious machinations mostly just perturbing potential suitors.
Mary takes an interest in the new heir, her distant cousin Matthew Crawley.
Over time, however, the pair grow closer and a romance develops.
Matthew proposes, to which Mary refuses to give him an answer. Matthew withdraws his proposal and decides to leave Downton but war breaks out and he joins the British Army.
Mary has a brief unsuccessful romance with a new money capitalist Sir Richard Carlisle. Carlisle possesses leverage over Mary due to her transgressions with Mr. Pamuk. Despite this, she decides to break it off as she cannot bear his presence.
Matthew comes back from the war crippled but has a miraculous recovery. Tragically his love interest passes of Spanish flu. He proposes to Mary and marries her. They have a son George. Tragically he passes in a car crash.
Mary becomes agent of the estate after inheriting her late husbands share and after Branson leaves for Boston, Massachussets.
She mourns Matthew for about 6 months and then shacks up with an eligible bachelor Lord Anthony Gillingham.
Ultimately Mary lacks butterflies with Tony, and decides to discontinue the relationship. Soon after she meets Branson’s friend Henry Talbot a mechanic and race car driver.
Mary blows up Edith’s engagement to a Marquess one Herbert Pelham by divulging the existence of Edith’s illegitimate daughter Marigold.
In August 1925, she and Henry Talbot marry at the St. Michael and All Angels Church.
Obviously, it’s very shocking to someone of your generation. — Mary Crawley
I’ve decided to live in the present and not spend my life regretting the past or dreading the future. — Mary Crawley
I’m glad to hear it. I should hate to be predictable. — Mary Crawley
How very disappointed you must be. — Mary Crawley
I don’t care a fig about rules. — Mary Crawley
Haven’t you heard? I don’t have a heart. Everyone knows that. — Mary Crawley
I wasn’t seduced, granny. — Mary Crawley
“But not only Downton. Us. We must never take us for granted. Who knows what’s coming?” — Mary Crawley
“Naturally, I’m not going to answer any of your questions, but I am impressed you should ask them. Well done.” — Mary Crawley
“I’ll do it. I don’t mind lying.” — Mary Crawley
Don’t think I’m amused. I really dislike my hand being forced. — Mary Crawley
“Nor me. The truth is, I asked Barrow to get Stowell in trouble and I’m terribly afraid he overdid it.” — Mary Crawley
“Matthew, it’s torture for all of us. And if I ever look as if I’m finding it easy to lose my home, then I am putting on an act.” — Mary Crawley
“Are we talking about sex, or love?” — Mary Crawley
It was lust, Matthew. Or a need for excitement or something in him that I… Oh, God, what difference does it make? — Mary Crawley
“Please stop treading on egg shells. I’ve other fish to fry.” — Mary Crawley
“I have fallen. I am impure.” — Mary Crawley
That’s why we must never take anything for granted. — Mary Crawley
When I’m at Downton, I feel so weighed down, as if I were stuck at school for the rest of my life. But tonight, you’ve made me play truant. And I like it. — Mary Crawley
“So I must brave the storm?” — Mary Crawley
“I’m trying. Really, I am. But I can’t pretend I’m doing very well. — Mary Crawley
“Oh, Matthew, what am I always telling you? You must pay no attention to the things I say.” — Mary Crawley
“We must all join in.” — Mary Crawley
Spoilsport. — Mary Crawley
“If you don’t, we will figure in a scandal of such magnitude it will never be forgotten until long after we’re both dead. I’ll be ruined, Mama. Ruined and notorious, a laughingstock, a social pariah. Is that what you want for your eldest daughter? Is it what you want for the family?” — Mary Crawley
“He was so beautiful.” — Mary Crawley
“The awful truth is he’s starting to get on my nerves.” — Mary Crawley
“It’s easy to be generous when you have nothing to lose.” — Mary Crawley
Of course. You know me, Carson. I’m never down for long. — Mary Crawley
“What shall we do? What would you like to do?” — Mary Crawley
“What’s it been like? Have you missed us?” — Mary Crawley
“Anna, if you’re in difficulties I wish you’d tell me.” — Mary Crawley
“On the contrary. I’m glad. Glad to see you happy.” — Mary Crawley
“I suppose you’re more interested in books than country sports.” — Mary Crawley
“Not unhealthy. Just unusual. Among our kind of people.” — Mary Crawley
“It seems a bit odd, but why not?” — Mary Crawley
“I’ve been studying the story of Andromeda. Do you know it? Her father was King Cepheus, whose country was being ravaged by storms and, in the end, he decided the only way to appease the gods was to sacrifice his eldest daughter to a hideous sea monster. So they chained her, naked to a rock.” — Mary Crawley
“But there’s nothing wrong in it.” — Mary Crawley
Who wants an old sea monster when they can have Perseus? — Mary Crawley
Well, it’s nothing to me. I’ve bigger fish to fry. — Mary Crawley
“What, marry a sea monster?” — Mary Crawley
You know my character, father. I’d never marry any man that I was told to. I’m stubborn. I wish I wasn’t, but I am. — Mary Crawley
“So I am just to find a husband and get out of the way?” — Mary Crawley
“Do you realize this is the first time we’ve ever been alone?” — Mary Crawley
“I’m afraid I’ve worn you out. Tomorrow we can just…” — Mary Crawley
“Oh, dear, if I answer truthfully, you’ll think me rather forward.” — Mary Crawley
“I don’t think we should pry. It feels rather… disrespectful.” — Mary Crawley
“Papa prefers the servants to read the Bible and letters from home.” — Mary Crawley
“Your lot buys it. My lot inherits it.” — Mary Crawley
At least I’m not fishing with no bait. — Mary Crawley
“I always apologize when I’m in the wrong. It’s a habit of mine.” — Mary Crawley
“Stuff and nonsense. We Crawley’s stick together.” — Mary Crawley
“Of course. But then I like a good argument. Papa does not.” — Mary Crawley
“She’s nice enough but he’s… very full of himself. Just an impression.” — Mary Crawley
He wasn’t really a fiance. — Mary Crawley
I was only going to marry him if nothing better turned up. — Mary Crawley
“You’re a darling.” — Mary Crawley
“We’ve danced all night.” — Mary Crawley
“It’s a terrific idea. If anyone can keep me out of trouble, it’s you.” — Mary Crawley
I’m too busy living a life. — Mary Crawley
“We were just looking around.” — Mary Crawley
“A year ago I thought I’d be alone forever. That I would mourn Matthew to the end of my days. Now I know that isn’t true, that there will be a new life for me one day. And even if I can’t decide yet what life that should be, isn’t it something for us to celebrate?” — Mary Crawley
“That sounds rather ominous.” — Mary Crawley
“You don’t think you’re being a bit obvious?” — Mary Crawley
“He isn’t one of us.” — Mary Crawley
The odd thing is I feel, for the first time, really… I understand what it is to be happy. It’s just I know that I won’t be. — Mary Crawley
“I hope the day is living up to your expectations.” — Mary Crawley
Oh, I was never much one for going round by the road. — Mary Crawley
“We all need crossing sweepers and draymen, too. It doesn’t mean we have to dine with them.” — Mary Crawley
“Mama, the world is changing.” — Mary Crawley
Maybe no one. I’d rather be alone than with the wrong man. — Mary Crawley
I know you mean to help. I know you love me. But I also know what I’m capable of, and 40 years of boredom and duty just isn’t possible for me. I’m sorry. — Mary Crawley
“Not the first time you’ve got the wrong end of the stick.” — Mary Crawley
I’m a lost cause, Mama. Leave me to manage my own affairs. — Mary Crawley
“You know what all work and no play did for Jack.” — Mary Crawley
“I’ll admit that if I ever wanted to attract a man I’d steer clear of those clothes and that hat.” — Mary Crawley
“Mama, not again. How many times am I to be ordered to marry the man sitting next to me at dinner?” — Mary Crawley
“Edith, I know we haven’t always got along and I doubt things change much in the future, but today I wish you all the luck in the world.” — Mary Crawley
“Life can be terribly unfair, can’t it.” — Mary Crawley
“Mr. Richard you flatter yourself. It takes a great deal more than that to shock me.” — Mary Crawley
“Have you ever felt your life was somehow… slipping away? And there was nothing you could do to stop it?” — Mary Crawley
“Because when it came to it he wasn’t right. At least not for me.” — Mary Crawley
“I’m impressed. My darling papa transformed into a Machiavelli at a touch. Will wonders never cease?” — Mary Crawley
Everything seems so golden one minute, then turns to ashes the next. — Mary Crawley
“You should learn to forget what I say. I know I do.” — Mary Crawley
“Women like me don’t have a life. We choose clothes and pay calls and work for charity and do the Season. But really, we’re stuck in a waiting room until we marry.” — Mary Crawley
“My life makes me angry. Not you.” — Mary Crawley
“I don’t believe a woman can be forced to give away all her money to a distant cousin of her husband’s. Not in the 20th century. It’s too ludicrous for words.” — Mary Crawley
“You can’t be serious. I don’t have to think about it. Marry a man who can barely hold his knife like a gentleman?” — Mary Crawley
“You’re American. You don’t understand these things.” — Mary Crawley
“You’ll soon get used to the way things are done here.” — Mary Crawley
“But we’re not, don’t you see that? We’re not in control of anything at all.” — Mary Crawley
“But you see, I’m not as sad as I should be. And that’s what makes me sad.” — Mary Crawley
Well, I’m glad you’re fighting. I’m glad somebody’s putting up a fight. — Mary Crawley
Audacious, adaptable, impetuous, a fervent and active realist Mary Crawley is an Artisan.
Charles Ernest Carson began working at Downton Abbey as a Second Footman at the age of 19. He lived at the estate to witness the birth of Robert and Cora’s three daughters: Mary, Edith and Sybil. Soon after Carson is promoted to butler and holds tenure over the position for the better part of half a century.
Carson treats the staff to a day out at the beach.
Carson is asked to be the Chairman of the War Memorial in Downton Village.
Despite the committee’s insistence, Carson insists His Lordship be made Patron.
In May 1925 Carson marries his long time co-worker Elsie Hughes, the head housekeeper at Downton.
Seven months later he hands in his resignation after suffering from palsy.
Underbutler Thomas Barrow replaces him as head butler.
I am the butler at Downton. My name is Carson. — Charles Carson
You say ‘kinder’ I say weaker and less disciplined. — Charles Carson
It’s a hard decision, Your Lordship, a very hard decision, but the honor of Downton is at stake. — Charles Carson
Nothing. Except at times I wonder if I’m just a sad old fool. — Charles Carson
Then I will consider the case and give you my decision when I have discussed it with His Lordship. Until then, I hope you will remain in your post. — Charles Carson
It’s very hard to hear the names of people you love dragged in the mud. You feel so powerless. — Charles Carson
Keeping up standards is the only way to show the Germans that they will not beat us in the end. — Charles Carson
I thought caution was a virtue. — Charles Carson
I like to see things done properly, Mrs. Hughes, and I won’t apologize for that. Now, if you’ll excuse me. — Charles Carson
Monarchy is the lifeblood of Europe. — Charles Carson
But I couldn’t work for a man that I don’t respect. And I certainly couldn’t have left Downton for him.
You’re trespassing on our generosity. — Charles Carson
You’d say if anything was wrong, wouldn’t you? I know I’ve been a bit crabby, but I am on your side. — Charles Carson
Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown. — Charles Carson
We shout and scream and wail and cry, but in the end we must all die. — Charles Carson
“Is there some crisis of which I am unaware?” — Charles Carson
“I cannot think of another reason why you should congregate here.” — Charles Carson
I always think there’s something rather foreign about high spirits at breakfast. — Charles Carson
“What is going on here? At a time like this, of sober dignity! Have you lost all sense of shame and propriety, sir? What makes you think you’re the stuff of a first footman? It’s Alfred who looks like a first footman to me. Take a leaf from his book and learn to conduct yourself with discretion!” — Charles Carson
The nature of life is not permanence, but flux. — Charles Carson
“Miss O’brien, we are about to host a society wedding. I have no time for training young hobbledehoys.” — Charles Carson
“I do not forbid it because I have no right to do so. But I do object, with every fiber of my being.” — Charles Carson
What a topsy-turvy world we’ve come to. — Charles Carson
“Is he, m’lady? Might I point out that we’re all busy but we still find time to support the honor of the house.” — Charles Carson
“She’s the widow of a murderer. She’ll have to get used to a degree of notoriety, I’m afraid. And so will we, as the house that shelters her.” — Charles Carson
“Quite m’lord.” — Charles Carson
“It won’t be the first time I’ve gone without sleep.” — Charles Carson
Human nature’s a funny business, isn’t it? — Charles Carson
“It’d be a huge wrench for me to leave Downton.” — Charles Carson
“I dare say. Not while we’re entertaining, but otherwise.” — Charles Carson
Nothing ‘goes on’ in any house where I’m in authority. — Charles Carson
Have you lost your mind? You’re a footman, not a traveling salesman. Please keep your opinions on the catering to yourself! — Charles Carson
“Well if I did, I learned from it. And that’s all I’m asking from him.” — Charles Carson
“If you ask me, we are staring into the chaos of Gomorrah.” — Charles Carson
“Alfred has embarrassed the family. He forced Mr. Matthew to appear downstairs improperly dressed.” — Charles Carson
I will not tolerate vulgarity, thank you, Miss O’Brien.— Charles Carson
Are you quite well, m’lady? — Charles Carson
“I await Lady Mary’s instruction.” — Charles Carson
“The plain fact is Mr. Bates, through no fault of his own, is not able to fulfill the extra duties expected of him. He can’t lift, he can’t serve at table, he’s dropping things all over the place.” — Charles Carson
“On a night like tonight, he should act as a third footman. As it is, m’lord, we may have to have a maid in the dining room.” — Charles Carson
“Even a butler has his favorites, m’lady. — Charles Carson
We’re all behind you, m’lady. The staff. We’re all on your side. — Charles Carson
“No, I’m not comfortable with this, my lady. I’m not comfortable at all.” — Charles Carson
“Certainly not. I shall look after His Grace myself.” — Charles Carson
“Mr. Bates is leaving without a stain on his character. I hope you all observe that in the manner of your parting.” — Charles Carson
“I knew he would bring shame on this house.” — Charles Carson
“There is no obligation for the whole staff to be present.” — Charles Carson
“It will be. If there’s any justice in the world.” — Charles Carson
“Well, it’s certainly a great day for Downton, to welcome a duke under our roof.” — Charles Carson
“Dinner is served, m’lady.” — Charles Carson
“Oh, I do take it personally, Mrs. Hughes. I can’t stand by and watch our family threatened with the loss of all they hold dear.” — Charles Carson
“Well, I reckon you work hard and you deserve to succeed. You just have to stick at it, and you will.” — Charles Carson
The world can be a shocking place, Alfred, but you are a man now and you must learn to take it on the chin. — Charles Carson
“I hope you don’t judge me too harshly.” — Charles Carson
Well, they’re all the family I’ve got. — Charles Carson
“Not at all, m’lord. Thomas will take care of you, while you’re here.” — Charles Carson
“Good morning, Mr. Bates. Welcome. I hope your journey was satisfactory?” — Charles Carson
“Do the Times first. He only reads that at breakfast. And the Sketch for Her Ladyship. You can manage the others later if need be.” — Charles Carson
“Not worse than a maid serving a duke.” — Charles Carson
“I would rather be put to death, m’lord.” — Charles Carson
“What ‘old lady’ are you referring to, Thomas? You cannot mean her ladyship the Dowager Countess. Not if you wish to remain in this house.” — Charles Carson
Downton is a great house Mr. Bates, and the Crawleys are a great family. We live by certain standards, and those standards can at first seem daunting. — Charles Carson
“William? Are you aware the seam at your shoulder is coming apart? You will mend it now. And you will never gain appear in public in a similar state of undress.” — Charles Carson
“If you find yourself tongue-tied in the presence of His Lordship, I can only assure you that his manners and grace will soon help you to perform your duties to the best of your ability.” — Charles Carson
I’m not entirely sure that he will prove equal to the task but Your Lordship will be the judge of that. — Charles Carson
To progress in your chosen career, William, you must remember that a good servant at all times retains a sense of pride and dignity that reflects the pride and dignity of the family he serves. And never make me remind you of it again. — Charles Carson
Stalwart, virtuous, tireless, and professional at all times Charles Carson is a Guardian.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham is the matriarch of the Crawley Family by her marriage to the late Earl of Grantham.
She is the mother of Robert Crawley, the 7th Earl of Grantham, and of Lady Rosamund Painswick (née Crawley), and the grandmother of Robert and his wife Cora’s three daughters: Mary, Edith, and Sybil. Through her granddaughters she has three great-grandchildren: Mary’s son George, Sybil’s daughter Sybbie, and Edith’s daughter Marigold.
Violet locks horns with the heir’s mother, Isobel Crawley.
The Countess ultimately embraces all of her new family and does her best to usher everyone in.
She works to minimize any scandal brought down on the family, and puts her efforts mainly into maintaining healthy minds within it.
If I were to search for logic, I should not look for it among the English upper class. — Violet Crawley
Lawyers are always confident before the verdict. It’s only afterwards they share their doubts. — Violet Crawley
Alas, I am beyond impropriety. — Violet Crawley
Sometimes I feel as if I were living in an H.G. Wells novel. — Violet Crawley
Men notice nothing. — Violet Crawley
I don’t need you to tell me the world is falling about our ears. — Violet Crawley
The aristocracy has not survived by its intransigence. — Violet Crawley
It’s the job of grandmothers to interfere. — Violet Crawley
Oh, well, that is an easy caveat to accept because I’m never wrong. — Violet Crawley
‘Lie’… is so unmusical a word. I want you to review the evidence honestly and without bias. — Violet Crawley
My dearest boy. There is no test on earth greater than the one you have been put to. I do not speak much of the heart, since it’s seldom helpful to do so, but I know well enough the pain when it is broken. — Violet Crawley
Peace. A woman of my age can face reality far better than most men. — Violet Crawley
Well I’ve been reminded recently that one is not given many chances in life, and if you miss them, they may not necessarily be repeated. — Violet Crawley
“Don’t let us hide behind the changing times, my dear.” — Violet Crawley
So what? I have plenty of friends I don’t like. — Violet Crawley
Any port in a storm. — Violet Crawley
I have lived through great wars and my share of grief. I think I can manage an impertinent question from a doctor. — Violet Crawley
“We all pander to Spratt in this house, Denker. He rules us with a rod of iron.” — Violet Crawley
“Perhaps Sir Richard had a hand in it. And while we’re on the subject of unsuitable spouses…” — Violet Crawley
“My dear, love is a far more dangerous motive than dislike.” — Violet Crawley
“I do not criticize your motives but did you really consider?” — Violet Crawley
Sometimes it’s good to rule by fear. — Violet Crawley
“Grief makes one so terribly tired.” — Violet Crawley
“On the contrary, it’s the most honest thing she’s ever said to me.” — Violet Crawley
“Well, what would you prefer? That I invite the local criminals to drop in and strip the house bare?” — Violet Crawley
My dear, when tragedies strike, we try to find someone to blame, and in the absence of a suitable candidate we usually blame ourselves. You are not to blame. No one is to blame. Our darling Sybil has died during child birth like too many women before her. And all we can do now is cherish her memory and her child. — Violet Crawley
Oh, don’t be, don’t be. It was a wedding present from a frightful aunt. I have hated it for half a century. — Violet Crawley
Nothing succeeds like excess. — Violet Crawley
He looks as if he’s waiting for a beating from the headmaster. — Violet Crawley
Edith dear, you are a woman with a brain and reasonable ability. Stop whining and find something to do! — Violet Crawley
“How? He’s done it before, he must be in possession of all the facts.” — Violet Crawley
“Now if you can all put your swords away perhaps we can finish our dinner in a civilized manner.” — Violet Crawley
“Principles are like prayers. Noble, of course, but awkward at a party.” — Violet Crawley
“He’s hardly the consummation devoutly to be wished.” — Violet Crawley
“No doubt to lead you down the primrose path of dalliance.” — Violet Crawley
“Since we have a country solicitor and a car mechanic, it’s only a matter of time.” — Violet Crawley
“He’s a fortune hunter, my dear. A pleasant one, I admit, but a fortune hunter.” — Violet Crawley
My dear, a lack of compassion can be as vulgar as an excess of tears. — Violet Crawley
“Oh, don’t say that. It’s our job to provide employment. An aristocrat with no servants is as much use to the county as a glass hammer.” — Violet Crawley
“I think she was very foolish not to take him when she could. I told her so.” — Violet Crawley
“My only fear is that you admire her money more.” — Violet Crawley
“No guest should ever be admitted without the date of their departure settled.” — Violet Crawley
“You’ve been reading those Communist newspapers again.” — Violet Crawley
“We must work with what we’ve got, to minimize the scandal.” — Violet Crawley
“I’m not being ridiculous. No Englishman would dream of dying in someone else’s house. Especially someone they didn’t even know.” — Violet Crawley
“Well, I hope we’re in control of something, if only ourselves.” — Violet Crawley
“Never mistake a wish for a certainty.” — Violet Crawley
“God moves in a mysterious way. His wonders to perform.” — Violet Crawley
“In this case, Mary has the trump card. Mary is family.” — Violet Crawley
“No family is ever what it seems from the outside.” — Violet Crawley
She reads too many novels. I mean, one way or another, everyone goes down the aisle with half the story hidden. — Violet Crawley
Well, if she doesn’t, we’ll just have to take her abroad. In these moments, you can normally find an Italian who isn’t too picky. — Violet Crawley
I always thought this family might be approaching dissolution. I didn’t know dissolution was already upon us. — Violet Crawley
“I am a woman of many parts.” — Violet Crawley
“You’ll find we Crawley’s stick together.” — Violet Crawley
“So now I’m an outsider who need not be consulted?” — Violet Crawley
“Sir Richard, life is a game in which the player must appear ridiculous.” — Violet Crawley
It’s bad enough parenting a child when you like each other. — Violet Crawley
“Yes, I have been very fortunate in that regard.” — Violet Crawley
“Why? She didn’t know him. One can’t go to pieces at the death of every foreigner. We’d all be in a state of collapse whenever we opened a newspaper.” — Violet Crawley
“Ah, just the ticket. Nanny always said sweet tea was the thing for frayed nerves. Though why it has to be sweet I couldn’t tell you.” — Violet Crawley
“Of course I’ve heard, why else would I be here?” — Violet Crawley
“Why does every day involve a fight with an American?” — Violet Crawley
“Why do you always have to pretend to be nicer than the rest of us.” — Violet Crawley
“He flatters me. I’m tougher than I look.” — Violet Crawley
“The one thing we don’t want is a poet in the family.” — Violet Crawley
“Then pity your wife, whose fortune must go to this odd young man, who talks about ‘weekends’ and ‘jobs.'” — Violet Crawley
You were quite right. When something bad happens, there’s no point in wishing it had not happened. The only option is to minimize the damage. — Violet Crawley
“Well I doubt I’d expect to curtsey to Their Majesties in June, when I’d been arrested at a riot in May, but then I’m old. Things may be different now.” — Violet Crawley
“My imagination is running riot.” — Violet Crawley
“Not if it isn’t in their best interests.” — Violet Crawley
“Please don’t think we’re grateful for your enthusiasm Mrs. Crawley, but there comes a time when things are best left to the proffessionals.” — Violet Crawley
“Put an end to her meddling.” — Violet Crawley
“No one can foresee the future, Doctor. Not you, not I, and certainly not Mrs. Crawley.” — Violet Crawley
“Robert dear, I don’t mean to sound harsh — 24 years ago you married Cora, against my wishes, for her money. Give it away now, what was the point of your peculiar marriage in the first place?” — Violet Crawley
“No. I couldn’t have electricity in the house. I wouldn’t sleep a wink. All those vapors seeping about.” — Violet Crawley
“He’s Robert’s third cousin once removed. I have never, to my knowledge, set eyes on him.” — Violet Crawley
“My dear, I didn’t come here to fight. Lord Grantham wanted to protect the estate. It never occurred to him that you wouldn’t have a son.” — Violet Crawley
“Is that what they call discussion in New York?” — Violet Crawley
“We are allies, my dear, which can be a good deal more effective.” — Violet Crawley
“I didn’t run Downton for 30 years to see it go, lock, stock and barrel, to a stranger from God knows where.” — Violet Crawley
“The queen of Naples was a stalwart figure. I take it as a compliment.” — Violet Crawley
“I never cared for James. He was too like his mother, and a nastier woman never drew breath.” — Violet Crawley
Logical, linguistical, intellectual, and sometimes a bit shrewd Violet Crawley is a Rational.
David West Keirsey (August 31, 1921 – July 31, 2013)
re-: Latin – ‘again‘
–imagin-: Latin imaginari – ‘picture to oneself,’
–ing: Germanic -ung – Gerund – ‘continuing action‘
My father died on July 30th, 2013 and I intend to honor him, if I can, by writing a blog about him and his ideas every year. First year, Second Year, Third Year
His ideas still have use because his ideas are slow ideas. Moreover, his ideas have wider applicability if re-imagin-ed, judiciously.
Only the educated and self-educated are free.
“… Up to that time I had learned a lot, but not at school. I began reading when I was seven. Read (most of) a twelve volume set of books my parents bought, Journeys through Bookland. Read countless novels thereafter, day in and day out. I educated myself by reading books. Starting at age nine my family went to the library once a week, I checking out two or three novels which I would read during the week. Then, when I was sixteen, I read my father’s copy of Will Durant’s The Story of Philosophy. I read it over and over again, now and then re-reading his account of some of the philosophers.” [Turning Points, David West Keirsey, 2013]
“I mention Durant’s book The Story of Philosophy because it was a turning point in my life, I too, become a scholar as did Durant, thereafter reading the philosophers and logicians—anthropologists, biologists, ethologists, ethnologists, psychologists, sociologists, and, most important, the etymologists, all of the latter—Ernest Klein, Eric Partridge, Perry Pepper, and Julius Pokorny—of interest to me now as then.” [Turning Points, David West Keirsey, 2013]
When I arrived on the scene (about 30 years later) upon which my father and I started debating about ideas. He was well educated, and more importantly self-educated, in Philosophy and Psychology. He considered himself to be the last of the Gestalt Psychologists at the end of his life.
Being a “hard” science kind of guy by nature but always being questioned by my “Gestalt” psychologist father, I always, in the back of my mind, questioned the basic assumptions taught to me in school — like the physics concept of “mass.” I couldn’t put my finger on exactly what was wrong or what issues were being finessed, for I figured that I was either ignorant or not bright enough to know better.
“If you don’t understand something said,
don’t assume you are at fault.”
— David West Keirsey
My father was called Dr. Matrix by his staff at Covina School District. He considered himself as an self taught expert in Qualitative Factor Analysis, because he had to have six semesters of statistics (quantitative and correlative) as a PhD requirement for psychology, and found that those techniques missed important factors and meaning. Rather, he looked for systematic (and wholistic) patterns in human action, using the principles of Gestalt psychology. I often would be his sounding board on his tentative propositions in characterizing the observable action patterns.