He: “At this moment I pass a new law, unalterable.”
She: “I rejected the real, and rabidly devoured the ideal.”
Mating and Dating is a dangerous game, for those who are serious.
With the Kindle release of the Pygmalion Project: The Idealist, people have an immediate opportunity to learn about how Idealists regard their mating relationships by downloading the ebook to their Kindle App. Dr. Steven Montgomery, who directly worked with Dr. David W. Keirsey on the Please Understand Me Series, uses examples from literature to illustrate some of joys and sorrows of dating and mating of the Idealists.
One of the examples in Volume III, Pygmalion Project: The Idealist is the story of Jane Eyre.
In the novel, Jane Eyre, a Counselor Idealist, meets and falls in love with a Mr. Edward Rochester, FieldMarshal Rational. Charlotte Brontë‘s story incredibly mirrors the two types: their thoughts and actions.
‘Charlotte Brontë also uses a lightning-riven tree as a metaphor in Jane Eyre (1847), but it suggests not so much Jane’s divided Counselor nature as the wrenching, searing separation she must endure from the man she loves as her soul’s mate, the indomitable Fieldmarshal Rational (ENTJ) Edward Rochester. On the night Rochester asks Jane to marry him, a fierce storm suddenly unleashes its fury, drenching the lovers, and driving them indoors from the garden. The wind wails and the thunder crashes for two hours, and in the morning Jane finds that “the great horse-chestnut at the bottom of the orchard had been struck by lightning… and half of it split away.”
Of course, Jane Eyre is one of the most well-loved novels in English literature, and thus Jane’s shocking discovery that Rochester is already married— a revelation that will tear her from his side on their wedding day— is familiar to most readers. But the larger story of Jane’s stormy romance with Rochester, of the powerful forces of personality underlying their attraction, their sudden breaking apart, and their eventual reconciliation, is in its own way a striking exposition of the problems and the joys of Idealist-Rational love.‘
[Stephen Montgomery. The Pygmalion Project (Vol. III : The Idealist) (Love & Coercion Among the Types) (Kindle Locations 2733-2741).]
At the end of the story, which is a happy ending, Jane and Rochester are able to meet both in reality and “in thought through new regions” as Rochester had imagined. Although Bronte’s Jane Eyre is novel, it does reflect reality and possibility of the Different Drums and Different Drummers — both marching together, as long as they Understand Each Other as best as they can.