christina wrote:My relationship with my husband is mostly good and I know that I love him deep down; he does have his difficult points, though! The greater dynamics of the whole package is tricky....and sometimes it's a hassle I wish I did not have to deal with(I'll be honest ). I am very concerned about us having kids and what that means for me (and, well, for the kid). At this point, I'm working on my situation and taking the "try it and see" approach with the relationship. So who knows. I know that I do love him, so we'll see if we can make this thing work. It is my hope that he can/ will continously learn to be good to me and I can continuously learn to be good to him (we've both made errors in this area of life). It's a struggle, but I'm finding strength through it all.
Christina, Goodie, others...
I feel that I am extremely fortunate to be with the man I am with, for many reasons, and I know that our temperament matchup is a big plus.
That being said, I don't want anyone to get the impression that there aren't times I'd rather not deal with some aspect of my husband (ahem, violent video games in a small house with not many other places to go, guy humor (he still doesn't remember that I am not nearly as cynical as he can be, and robot chicken depresses me for the most part), logic, logic, logic...). I guess I don't want people who are in abstract/concrete relationships thinking that those of us who have our KTT matches don't have moments where we want to blow up, pull our hair out, and wonder how we'll maintain our sanity one minute longer. Oh, and cursing...that's a pet peeve of mine, especially since we have a baby now. I know she can't understand it yet, but I don't want to wait until her first word is the f-bomb, not that it's said that often, but I don't like it said at all.
I'm sure speaking the same language helps us, but there are times when we are both so far gone in our own directions that it could be japanese and french.
Anyway. I hope no one took this the wrong way, preachy, or "we have it just as bad as you do so you have no right to complain". I guess the reason I am sharing this is that I want you guys to get at least some satisfaction from knowing the fact that there are times I want to be a million miles away from the love of my life. They don't last long, and I always want to come back....but man!
And Christina, I don't know the specifics, but every worth while relationship takes both parties continually learning how to be better in it, I think...better to themself and the other. My hubby and I have both grossly mistreated the other one, and it's something I think happens with a lot of couples. So don't feel bad about that.