Here is something I copied, pasted, edited from a response I posted for a different thread........I wanted to start a separate topic here about it.
Something I noticed between me and my husband's family is that he grew up in a super-structured environment whereas I did not. I thought it interesting to note that me and most of my siblings are "P" while his, I think, are mostly "J". Yet, we were both raised by two "J" parents.
Here is a piece of the original post:Husband's Environment:
is a BIG Guardian (but we can't figure out which one, for now we've only excluded Inspector). Her home is clean, safe, comfortable, and even welcoming, but it's also like walking on eggshells (for me). There are only certain places where shoes, coats, purses, keys may be. There is definitely an order and certain way of doing things (established primarily by his Guardian Mother).....and if that order is not followed, there is hell to pay! My husband is one of six, and the were each assigned colors. Many items in the house are color-coded, right down to socks and colors of sheets. Yikes My Environment:
My mother, a Supervisor Guardian, had a different method. We kept things how we wanted them as long as it was all "generally clean/straightened up" and we roamed the house at our own schedules doing whatever we wanted whenever we decided. A stark contrast between my husband's life and mine was that his mother has dinner ready at the same time, EVERY night! (Impressive
) Our dinner time was always estimated to occur sometime between 6-9pm and was definitely less formal
In terms of discipline, mom paraded through the house saying how messy it was and that "we better clean it up". So, after enough "unpleasant sensory" information, we all scrambled and straightened things up. I think there was more "freedom" in this in the sense we chose how we wanted things organized (and we set the bar as "high" or "low" as we wished
). Also, we had more room to "let things slide".
I think my mom established more of a "cyclical" type of routine whereas me mother-in-law
maintained/enforced an established "platform"Temperaments:
Me & My siblings: Crafter/Performer Artisans, Champion/Healer Idealists, Architects, and Provider Guardian (she's the only one
Parents: ESFJ, ESTJ (though, technically, my natural father was probably an Artisan)
My husband and his siblings: INTJ, INTP, INTJ, ENTP*, sister**, brother***.
*Brother: This particular brother is a mystery. My guesses have included INTJ, ENTP, maybe
INFJ (but unlikely). His INTJ sister believes him to be "INFP," but I disagree with her GREATLY
For now, I think I've decided on ENTP...simply because he has often said that he prefers anime series where the protagonist "beats the system". He's very arrogant, but he seems to have some "coworking" about him, but I remain undecided about that since he ends up talking about his own ideas rather than soliciting mine. He seems to be somewhat timely/structured, er, whatnot and he keeps only a small circle of friends (same friends he's grown up with). I would say INTJ, except he doesn't seem to have an "contender" qualities either
**Sister: 9yo. Expressive, directive, but not sure of her temperament. I'm thinking ENTJ.
***Brother: Has autism, not sure what his temperament would be
Parents: ENTJ, Unknown Guardian....but I'm thinking ESFJ.
Does anyone else find it odd that most, if not all his siblings are Rationals?
Whoever is spared personal pain must feel himself called to help in diminishing the pain of others. We must all carry our share of the misery which lies upon the world. — Albert Schweitzer