Fear

[shytiger]

Yeah, this is true of me, I think. I rationalize everything I do either before or after I do it, which almost eliminates guilty feelings. It probably looks like I don't have a conscience. BUT this is only absolving myself of blame to myself. Other people still hold me responsible for things (that sometimes have no realistic way of being my fault -- my mom is like this mostly). Most of the blame that is placed on me by others is closer to being legitimately my fault, but only in their eyes, not in mine. If in doubt I chalk it up to being inevitable in which case it can't be my fault. I know, this sounds pretty awful. It used to worry me that I could do the most heinous thing if I thought it was the best option, if the pros outweighed the cons...and I'd only have to convince myself of that...

That's interesting. This may be an Architect/Inventor difference. Inventors will generally take any criticism or blame very seriously and assume that they need to improve themselves in some way in order to nullify the criticism. We can't absolve ourselves without changing behavior unless we conclude that the blame is unwarranted--i.e. that the critic has no right to criticise us by the rules of society and logic.

[christina]

Interesting stuff.

[stellarrenegade]

Yeah, this is true of me, I think. I rationalize everything I do either before or after I do it, which almost eliminates guilty feelings. It probably looks like I don't have a conscience. BUT this is only absolving myself of blame to myself. Other people still hold me responsible for things (that sometimes have no realistic way of being my fault -- my mom is like this mostly). Most of the blame that is placed on me by others is closer to being legitimately my fault, but only in their eyes, not in mine. If in doubt I chalk it up to being inevitable in which case it can't be my fault. I know, this sounds pretty awful. It used to worry me that I could do the most heinous thing if I thought it was the best option, if the pros outweighed the cons...and I'd only have to convince myself of that...

That's interesting. This may be an Architect/Inventor difference. Inventors will generally take any criticism or blame very seriously and assume that they need to improve themselves in some way in order to nullify the criticism. We can't absolve ourselves without changing behavior unless we conclude that the blame is unwarranted--i.e. that the critic has no right to criticise us by the rules of society and logic.

That sounds alot like my friend except that he's always been pretty good at demonstrating that he has a good reason for what he did. But he does seem to take criticism very seriously, to a fault.

Ditto with the guy at work I suspect is also an Inventor, although he's not quite as skilled at proving he's right. Just yesterday though he got pretty upset when one of our drivers made a claim that seemed to implicate said Inventor as being irresponsible and/or not solving an important issue, even though we most definitely would believe him over the driver. The situation fizzled out pretty quickly, though.

[mkb32]

"Diss" comes from the word "disrespect" and was popular in the inner city vernacular of the early 1990's in America.

You mean it's not popular anymore?

Nope. Once boring old white people use it, it's not popular anymore.

Oh too bad, that's just not groovy. I need to boogie. make a move I mean

I think you may mean "bust a move" or "kickin' it" or you could be "just chillen wit yo peeps", cb.

But then again, I am boring (meaning that my one of my preferred forms of entertainment includes sitting in front of my computer screen), country (meaning that I currently reside in a rural area and therefore ignorant of current urban word trends), old (meaning that I am over 21 years of age), white (meaning my skin is pale and I have no interesting African, Asian, Hispanic, Indian, Pacific Islander or Eskimo heritage) and enough of a self focused wise ass to assume that you all are interested in my personal explanations of the slang terms that I choose to use simply because I am always interested in "what does that mean to you?".