My dear INFP

[Quinta]

My husband scored as an INFP at the job. Now he says, and he says I should quote him:

INFPs are completely useless all of them and should be brainwashed into something else.

[Quinta]

Do other INFPs say "no to compliments and words of praise or acknowledgement"?

[Architron]

The only 2 Conciliator Idealists I know personally are crazy.

NOTE: But also very pleasant.

[Quinta]

You got it!


Yes, I've learned to appreciate the value of absurdities.

[Goodrum]

Quinta I couldn't head off to bed without answering or at least commenting...

Please give your husband a big hug.

He is unique. Please tell him although the path sometimes feels like something that is impossible to describe to another person...it is OUR own individual and unique road trip. Nobody can take that from him. No one, or nothing can replace the essence of his soul.

It took a while for me to come to terms with being the person I am, or trying to understand? also..I hope one day he reaches the place of acceptance...it just is. We are who we are. Praise or compliments difficulties, maybe it's something to do with self esteem, maybe it is deep within the healer psyche?....but never be ashamed of who you are.

I am seriously thinking of lobbying for a National Healer Day. We have a lotta love to share....Love and hugs.

Mr Quinta rocks!

[stellarrenegade]

Back in the day when I scored as an INFP I know I felt both very alone and very frustrated at not being able to be practical, remember details or communicate effectively to others what I was feeling. What Goodrum says should be paid attention to, because for a Healer to be both acknowledged and loved is quite a big deal and will go light-years in the direction of helping them acquire a more effective persona in the world of mortals. They need affirmation, not necessarily all the time, but just when it's important - when they do something sacrificial or create something special, or just every once in awhile, for being them. They probably won't look for that affirmation - it would go against their naturally selfless composure - but when given to them unlooked-for it's very special (as long as it's natural and not forced at all).

All that may seem to some to indicate that they need to be 'babied' but that's not the case at all. Often a Healer that's been on their personal journey for quite some time is undergoing some kind of internal heroic tragedy or self-sacrifice that nobody else knows about, which actually creates something of a very painful maturing process.

In other words, affirming them isn't the sickly sweet endeavor that it might appear to be because you're rewarding something very noble and sacrificial about them, thus balancing out their internal forces and creating harmony between themselves and others. Often because of the stress and painful struggle within there is a great deal of suffering - sometimes unnecessary suffering, too - which can be resolved with a little extra love-and-care. This may go a great deal towards setting them on the path to becoming more workable and efficient people.

At least that's how I understand it.

[Quinta]

Q although the path sometimes feels like something that is impossible to describe to another person...it is OUR own individual and unique road trip. Nobody can take that from him. No one, or nothing can replace the essence of his soul.

This really makes sense. "Nobody's gonna break my style." Nothing going against that sense of being will make any positive impact. You summed it up.

You know you folks are likable.

[Quinta]

They need affirmation, not necessarily all the time, but just when it's important - when they do something sacrificial or create something special, or just every once in awhile, for being them. They probably won't look for that affirmation - it would go against their naturally selfless composure - but when given to them unlooked-for it's very special (as long as it's natural and not forced at all)

"- as long as it's natural and not forced at all"-

I believe that is a key.

In other words, affirming them isn't the sickly sweet endeavor that it might appear to be because you're rewarding something very noble and sacrificial In other words, affirming themabout them, thus balancing out their internal forces and creating harmony between themselves and others. Often because of the stress and painful struggle within there is a great deal of suffering - sometimes unnecessary suffering, too - which can be resolved with a little extra love-and-care. This may go a great deal towards setting them on the path to becoming more workable and efficient people.

Some challenge. I know how to USE a situation. And having such a kind person in my life may allow me to take it for granted.
That's not healthy.

A sense of humor is.

[Goodrum]

You know you folks are likable.

LOVEable!!!! Heh..

[Quinta]

Ok, I'll remember that.

"Lovable" is better than "likable".