The Dating Scene (Rational vignettes)

[Dr. Lovegood]

While some Rationals enjoy the dating game, many are indifferent at best and some find it something to be avoided. What most Rationals hope to find is a mindmate, someone who can follow their intricate thinking and who has depths in their own thinking. Although some Rationals are antisocial and don’t seem to need others, most Rationals actively look for partners just like the other temperaments.

Zachary, A Rational Inventor (ENTP)
Robert: A Rational Architect (INTP)
Dimitri: A Rational Fieldmarshal (ENTJ)
Elizabeth: A Rational Mastermind (INTJ)

[lutra]

Re the vignette, Zachary isn't any different from most men I know. Round about 28 - 32, they hit that settling down stage that women go through about 5 or 7 years earlier. When a guy finds "the one," then all of sudden that hesitation to commit disappears. For rational men this seems to require not only being at the right point in their lives, but also finding a woman they relate to on an intellectual level, not just someone they're physically attracted to. Some guys do just fine with women who aren't their intellectual equals, but I've never known a Rational type whose committed partner wasn't intellectually compatible, and that's not just having similar IQs but also being similar in the *way* they think about things. For that matter, women Rationals seem to have a harder time finding compatible mates than men Rationals, at least as far as I can tell.

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[geekchic9]

For that matter, women Rationals seem to have a harder time finding compatible mates than men Rationals, at least as far as I can tell.

I am a female rational (INTJ), and I haven't really had that problem. It's because I've descoved MBTI/Keirsey early and figured out I wanted to date another NT pretty early on in my life. Thus, I have no problem figuring out ways to attract the kind of people I want without compromising my identity, my intellect, or my values. I am very grateful for personality typing -- it has saved me years of time. Without it, I would have hated myself for not fitting into the F or SJ mold. I don't fit into molds: I create them. Therein lies my power.

As for dating other rationals, I've dated an INTP and an ENTP, and now I am dating an ENTJ. It's funny how these little vignettes are so scarily accurate, because the INTP wanted me to agree with him on everything, the ENTP was afraid of settling down, and the ENTJ wants to move faster in the relationship than we are ready to right now. I guess my question is how to persuade the ENTJ that I still think he's great and do not want to offend him by slowing things down. He already knows this rationally, but I don't think he does emotionally, and we all know how ENTJs aren't well-known for being good with emotions. Does anyone have any advice on how to soothe the emotions of such a very powerful and strong-willed NT?

[estanford]

(About the INTP vignette)


I've said it before and I'll say it again -- XKCD is the last word in NTP romance vignettes. Witness:

[lutra]

Those cartoons are a SCREAM! but does anyone except rationals "get" rational humor?

[estanford]

I don't know. It's possible -- does anyone of any other temperament see why this is funny?

[ENFP123]

Those cartoons are a SCREAM! but does anyone except rationals "get" rational humor?

Yes, I was raised with rationals

[Goodrum]

I love them, Estanford had some more of these, on the forum here, somewhere but I've lost them...I love the different humor each temperament brings/has.

Actually what would be specific diplomatic (idealist) type humor??

I have the silliest, wackiest sense of humor...the stupidist things...

[Architron]

I don't know. It's possible -- does anyone of any other temperament see why this is funny?

I don't quite understand. It makes me want to take physics though... and math...

[lutra]

I love them, Estanford had some more of these, on the forum here, somewhere but I've lost them...I love the different humor each temperament brings/has.

Actually what would be specific diplomatic (idealist) type humor??

I have the silliest, wackiest sense of humor...the stupidist things...

Goodrum, I don't know what the Idealist humor would be, but THAT FOAL IN YOUR AVATAR IS THE CUTEST THING!!!!! Friend of yours? (I a horse-crazy kid...)